The Nature of Unrequited Love.

Unrequited love is deemed to be of a higher metaphysical and ethical status than sexual or physical attractiveness alone. The idea of unrequited love initially stems from the Platonic tradition that love is a desire for beauty-a value that transcends the particularities of the physical body. For Plato, the love of beauty culminates in the love of philosophy, the subject that pursues the highest capacity of thinking. Unrequited love theoretically was not to be consummated, for such love was transcendentally motivated by a deep respect for the lady; however, it was to be actively pursued in chivalric deeds rather than contemplated-which is in contrast to Ovid’s persistent sensual pursuit of conquests!

Mark Epstein’s book Open to Desire uses the Buddha’s lesson of letting go of attachment as the way to make people realise the difference between attachment and desire. Between unrequited love, lust and romance. Because humans are sensually oriented, anything that makes us feel better, becomes a habit. Tending these through introspection, meditation and constant mental training can help distinguish between desire and attachment.

Modern romantic love returns to Aristotle’s version of the special love where two people find in each other’s virtues-one soul and two bodies, as he poetically puts it. It is deemed to be of a higher status, ethically, aesthetically, and even metaphysically than the love that behaviorists or physicalists describe.

While going through separation in unrequited love, it is important to be compassionate. Be true to what you feel and be kind to what the other feels. I have written about this in my post Moving On in Unrequited Love. Be willing to compromise or let go of all that is important – assets, relationships, custodies, etc. In the long run, you will see that everything can be recovered with time; yes, even relationships. If you are going to lose a friend, because of your one-way feelings, so be it. Once you have got your feelings under control, you can always try to be friends again. Money, assets, children, everything will fall into place, with time.

Separation may seem truly painful at times and not so painful at other times to unrequited lovers. It is because of the constant fight between intensities and beliefs of the visible you and the actual you. The deeper you connect with yourself, the clearer you will be able to see what you really want. I have written about this in detail in my blog Separation and Unrequited Love. Truth is that until love embraces separation, it is reduced to just a needy attachment. A relationship is merely an entanglement until a lover sees the beauty of being alone. Until you have lived at least one unrequited love relationship, you are not ready to experience the happiness of a true love.

Because I am covering only the unrequited aspect of love in my blogs here, I am not going to get into the details of the general hyperdimensional realm, however, it is important to understand that there are unseen forces influencing our planet. There is more to us than the five senses can perceive. Forces that we do not stop and feel or think about in our day-to-day lives. There is Psychopathy of the genes, of the spirit and that we are not all the same inside. Not every one of us can activate the higher forces. These are intricate subjects that need cautious study and thought.

Metaphysically speaking, a relationship is a combination of bonds. When you make love, a spiritual bond is formed, which intimately binds the chakras of two individuals. People who are promiscuous are mostly unable to balance their relationships because the chakra cords are being broken constantly. If you have found someone outside of your marriage or relationship that your heart feels an inexplicable connection with, you’ve probably found a Karma clear soul and are most likely going to be unable to stop an intimate bond from being formed. Once this happens, it will be very difficult for you to retain a spiritual balance in your current relationship.

I have written in detail about unrequited love relationships in my articles. In my future posts, I am going to write more about this subject. Keep checking back, if this interests you and don’t forget to like, comment and share!