The Agony of Unrequited Love.
It is interesting how the world seldom stops to think about people getting brutalized by unrequited love or relationships in general, but it happens all the time. An important part of creating a stable vehicle for any relationship is to have a balanced relationship with yourself. Starting to see how you could make yourself better from the outside, plugging into that and moving yourself internally that way is the trick. You are unqualified to be in love, unless you know what it feels like. So, learn to love yourself first, but make sure it is in an unselfish way.
People go to counsellors and pay high fees to find out how to get someone to love them. They claim to love this person more than they love themselves and for them, this concept is the identity of romantic love. In all honesty, your relationship with yourself is more important than anything else. If another relationship outside of yourself becomes more important to you, you become an unstable vehicle to carry love. Any sensible person would want to get into a relationship with someone who is high on confidence and loves himself.
In my post More About Unrequited Love and Karma, I have written about the importance of making peace with yourself when you are or have been in unrequited love, in order to become Karma clear and be ready for a relationship in the future. When you’ve been hurt, there’s a Karma there, but the Karma is always with yourself. It’s not with the other person. The Karma centre lies within you. The only way to make peace with agony of the past is to make peace with yourself. Once you’ve managed to do that, you’re clear, it’s that simple!
Restore yourself mentally; even if it means taking therapy. Get rid of the love you feel for another person mentally. It often requires talking it out and acknowledging it. The therapist is mostly going to make you talk until it gets boring. Read about Hypnotherapy. It helps.
Associate with someone who allows you to grow. As I have written in my post Hopeless Unrequited Love, a good relationship is where both partners feel the support of being pushed to achieve their best, yet being loved for what they are. Let your partner feel important in the relationship. Praise and encouragement can work better than power and controlling. Also, learn to cooperate and be patient.
Others have no advice to give about your relationships. Why let them make choices for you? Recognize the people who love you and see if you can find a beautiful, committed relationship there, instead of remaining stuck in unrequited love. People are like plants; they will turn into weeds if you don’t cultivate them. If you water them, nurture them, you will form a better relationship and a better reflection of your own self.
If you are looking to fall in love and being loved back, you need to get involved with people who are Karma clear. Look for those people around you. They will be the ones who are selflessly offering their love to you. Karma clear does not mean someone that is without Karma. It means someone who has come out clear of past relationships and is ready to process new ones.
At the point when your feelings in a relationship are not shared, the outcome can be excruciating for both of you, particularly for the person who is more dedicated to the relationship. Unrequited love — the most common topic for novels and movies, is one of the worst situations to be in. Simply knowing that your relationship falls under this category is all that is needed to make you take some difficult decisions in life. Mostly, it is the decision to stay in the relationship that is important only to the unrequited lover, but at times, it is the decision to walk out.
A much required “change” that one partner demands from the other is what leads the other to start feeling claustrophobic and suffocated in the relationship. This demand for change, without consent of the partner is the cause of most broken, hopeless or unrequited love relationships.
I have collected this information from sources available to me. If you have information to share, please leave it in the comments section and I will add it in my future posts.