Saving Yourself from Unattainable Love.
The concept of unrequited love may sound out of date. But, as evidenced by the huge number of people searching the term online, human concerns haven’t really changed all that much since good old Will Shakespeare purportedly wrote “Love is the most beautiful of dreams and the worst of nightmares.”
There are times when a vivacious and cheerful person might happen to fall in love with a sociopath. Someone who shows all signs of a promising future. Someone smart, beautiful, warm and talented. Even if you have dated a lot and were widely admired, you may become a victim of wrong choice, which eventually leads to broken relationships and unrequited love. Any charismatic person who makes you smile and sweeps you off your feet is not to be dated or married.
Being with such a person leads to suffering and sometimes unhappy, abusive marriages for many years before you decide you are in unrequited love and cannot take it anymore. As hugely exciting a prospect as marriage may be, when you’re in love with someone, sometimes your emotions can cloud your judgment. Some people are fun to be with and all, but can you imagine him as the father/mother of your children?
Bear in mind the long road ahead, before committing to someone. Here are a few points to consider when you are looking for a long-term relationship. These are the all-time top qualities of a keeper. Remember, this is your future we’re talking about!
Confidence
You don’t want to spend your life with a vain person. You don’t want a selfish or narcissistic partner. It’s fine to want to look nice, and no one wants to be with a slob, but pay attention to the person’s ego and make sure s/he’s not a slave to fashion or his physique/beauty.
Make sure the person loves himself. While we are not looking for narcissists, and I would strongly advise you steer clear of the someone who moons over himself. But someone content with life and someone who values himself is a good carrier of love. Don’t fall for a person who never saw a mirror he didn’t like.
Simplicity
When the car stalls or the gutters need cleaned, it’s sure handy to have a man around. Even if your guy isn’t a skilled mechanic or handyman, it’s nice to have someone who will dig in and not shy away from hard work. Similarly, when a quick meal has to be prepared, the woman you choose for yourself shouldn’t be someone so concerned about her nails that she would rather let you sleep hungry. Don’t settle for someone lazy or someone who won’t pitch in to help maintain your home. Someone with a strong work ethic will teach your children the value of hard work. Someone who extends a helping hand to others is someone worthy of your love.
Compassion
A guy who is a gentleman to his mom and other women is a keeper. Someone who is both tender with kids and respectful to the elderly is worth a second look. A man’s behavior toward women says volumes about the type of person he is. I have a brother-in-law who adores my kids. Even after having children of his own, he makes my kids feel special and cool. He loves roughhousing with them and blending fruit smoothies for them. This kind of men make good partners.
Honesty
You’ll enjoy peace of mind and feel more secure in your marriage with an honest man because with an honest partner, you can be assured of several things. Your partner will be true to his co-workers, boss, friends and family members. When you’ve snagged an honest man, he won’t be unfaithful to you. He’ll be upfront in his financial dealings. When he makes mistakes, he won’t hide them from you because he is a man of honor.
Humility is the underlying attribute to all of these qualities in a person. And if you have found such a person, you are most likely going to avoid being in unrequited love in life. Someone who will regard you higher than himself is worth keeping and will not leave you in unrequited love and suffering for the rest of your life.