Every breakup hurts. While some are worse than others, they all affect us in one form or another. Whether it was an amicable or fury induced split, here are some tips that will provide you with the solid tips on how to get over your breakup.
Ideas To Move On From A Relationship
1. Stop holding back.
One should stop holding oneself into the darkness of the past, if they want to be free. They should stop locking themselves into the Prison of the past. If they want to see the light then they should stop holding themselves in the darkness of the past. if one really wants to move on then release the heavy weight from the back. Move on and create the best life and one shall never allow their past to enter their home and live there rent free.
2. Free your mind.
Don’t allow the thoughts of your past relationship to live in the mind for the rest of the day. If someone did you wrong then let it go. They will ruin more of your life if you allow them to invade your mind like a virus which will only affect the quality of your life in every other area.
3. Be Brave
Showing your ego is brave enough to let go. Showing you are strong enough to enjoy your life, to live your life fully and regardless of what happens or who isn’t doing the right thing by you. Let them have their accident somewhere else.
4. Focus on your own life.
If life hasn’t gone as planned, just know that it doesn’t always go as planned for anyone. Move on and focus on the good. The people who live good lives haven’t got lucky. When things don’t work out, they move on and focus on the next positive. They drop the negative like a hot potato and focus on what they can do to get a better state.
5. Don’t seek sympathy
Do not seek sympathy from family and friends but focus on what is good and let go of the negatives. Don’t cheat on your future with your past. It’s over. Commit to your future and it will be strong healthy one. If you don’t let go of your past your future will probably suffer. Understand this very important fact that you are the one who suffers most when you hold on to resentments.
6.Do not seek revenge.
Never seek revenge because when you do, you can not let it go and move on. Richard Carlson once said “the key to a good life is this: if you are not going to talk about something during the last hour of your life then don’t make it a top priority during your lifetime.”
7. Give yourself time to heal.
Ego tells that once everything is perfect then I will be happy but the soul knows the truth: be happy then everything is perfect. No, life circumstances won’t be perfect but if you can get into the right understanding, you can then get to the point that everything happens for a reason and be at peace with that.
8. Be happy for yourself.
Do whatever it takes to find your happiness, not because everything is good but because you see the good in everything. Not because every circumstance is a miracle but because you see the miracle in life itself. Albert Einstein once said: “there is only two ways to live your life one is as though nothing is a miracle and other is as though everything is.
9. Take up a new hobby.
Being newly single doesn’t have to be a bad thing. When you are in a relationship you have less time for yourself since much of it is devoted to your partner but on the other hand when you are single you can get to know yourself more intimately, you are free to discover your interest and dedicate your time to whatever you want, if there is a particular class of hobby that you have always wanted to participate in perhaps its animation like painting puzzles or gardening or sports or book club or even a theater, the possibilities are endless.
10. Pamper yourself
Indulge yourself in junk food and sappy movies since your ex won’t be there to treat you anymore. Take a vacation, take a week or a weekend to relax somewhere, take a spa day and rid yourself of the daily stresses that pile on top of your relationship loss.
11. Be real with yourself
Use your time alone to reflect on your relationship before the break up and you may have positive memories of your partner’s and the time you spent together. It is important to remember that there were problems that inevitably drove you to a path while you might want to fix things and accept that the two of you might simply be incompatible and that breaking up was the best course of action in the long run.
12. Be in touch with family
It is important to have a decent support system to help you through a breakup and when you are feeling angry or hurt, your friends can justify your feelings and remind you that you are not alone. You might even share some of their own illuminating experiences and additional research shows that merely verbalizing one’s feelings can make negative emotions less intense.
13. Listen to sad music.
During a break up, your brain is actually attracted to sad music and when an artist you have never met can articulate your exact thoughts and feelings through words and sounds, its proof that you are not alone and you are a human sharing in a human experience and moreover a recent study has found that sad songs can actually elicit peacefulness in the listener.
14. Accept the past.
If your break up was less than amicable, you might be harboring some regret and hostility towards your ex. Allow yourself the time necessary to grieve but be careful not to let it consume your identity. Having bad feelings not only contribute to feelings of anxiety and panic but they will also impact your future relationships in a bad way.
15. It’s okay to still love your ex.
Breakup doesn’t mean that the love between you is completely dead. Whether it has been a few years or a few months the two of you made memories together and played significant roles in each other’s life. Unfortunately love just isn’t enough and there are many other things that factor into making a relationship work and understand that love sometimes means wanting the best for each other and sometimes that means breaking up.
16. Feel good about the rebound.
a 2014 study found that people who rebounded with a new partner after a breakup reported a better sense of well-being than those who stayed single for long periods of time afterwards. However the rebound in the study happened approximately seven months after their first breakup and therefore it’s important for you to heal before moving on. Be open to new possibilities and don’t turn away a new chance at love because you are hung up on your ex.
17. Write down the reason WHY
When you know your reason WHY, you need no external motivators.
It will light the fire under everything you do. It will inspire you to push harder and move on. Don’t give up even if you are having your lowest moments, you will never stay there. You will come out of it and Stronger.
18. Experience it.
The only way to really get over a breakup is to deal with it. Do not distract yourself, let yourself feel the emotions one at a time and there will be good times and there will be bad but the most important thing is to give yourself time and if you feel like crying then cry because crying has a bad reputation but it is extremely therapeutic. Crying isn’t losing control, it is gaining it back through owning your emotions.
19. Focus on yourself.
After being the second half of a couple for a while people tend to forget what it feels like to be on one own again. Be your own person and do whatever you feel like doing to regain that awesome sense of independence that you lost while being someone else’s significant other. This can be done in a number of ways: treat yourself to something nice like a delicious dinner for a day out and about or maybe take the time to re-evaluate your health goals or even set personal goals for yourself.
20. Try new things.
Have you always wanted to take guitar lessons? Take a Yoga class? Finally, read that book you bought two years ago. Find a new hobby. You will get out more, meet new people and most importantly, get that pesky ex off your mind.
21. Move on.
It is not uncommon for two people to break up and want to remain friends but the most important thing you can do is distance yourself from that person and if that means taking a month long vacation to New Mexico, so be it. Don’t text or email them. What you both need at this point is a space. Breakups create emotional wounds, and if you are in constant contact with your ex, you will never give yourself that time you need to heal. After the healing process go out and meet new people and kickstart your life again.
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