Subconscious Mind and Unrequited Love.
Every unrequited lover is capable of finding someone to love them back, however, there are reasons why some of them remain in one-way love or fall in love with unavailable love objects and the existence of ethereal cords is one of them. Some people get into the destructive pattern of only really falling for people who are ‘unavailable’ in some way, perhaps they are with someone else or emotionally unable to commit to a relationship. Subconsciously making unavailability a prerequisite for falling in love is like insisting on going swimming only in dry deserts – it’s never going to really work. If you have been doing this, or you suspect you have, at least become conscious of it and reflect that it’s a self-defeating strategy.
For example, when you fall in love with your best friend, it will either be reciprocated or you will be left in unrequited love and this will lead to the end of a friendship which can be painful and confusing. After all, you became friends with this person for a reason and probably shared some good times together. The question is, why did you choose to fall in love with a friend? You probably knew all along that your feelings are not going to be reciprocated. Is this a pattern? Do you subconsciously choose to fall in unattainable love?
When a friendship becomes toxic because of unrequited love, moving on is the healthiest and best path forward and will help you feel better in the long run. It is said that friendships permeate our lives, impacting our careers, marriages, families, children and health. Detecting toxic friendships and learning how to let them go is essential to a happy life.
Just think for a moment how wonderful it’s going to feel when you no longer have to be obsessed about that person. How you’ll be able to choose whether to think about them or not. And when you do, you are able to feel calm and detached, putting it down to part of life’s rich tapestry of experience. In instances of obsession, the unrequited lover tries to control or maintain a strategic distance from the thoughts and images of the beloved and looks for possible distractors to maintain balance, though this relief is short-lived. However, the term “love obsession” generally includes both addiction and obsession. Just imagine how good it’s going to be when you find someone who knows how to love you as you love them!
When mourning the loss of a relationship, it’s easy to remember the good times and to wonder if you made the right decision to end the relationship. Friendships can become so comfortable that it’s hard to let them go. Like denim, it’s easy to get used to a pal who doesn’t fit you like they should. The reality is, toxic behavior won’t benefit you and it weakens the foundation of a friendship. The first step to healing is acknowledging the truth. Review the problems that existed in the relationship and remind yourself why you’re no longer friends. Trust that you parted from this person for a good reason.
I have always emphasised on the power of meditation and self-realisation through introspection. I am now going to share my most preferred way of meditation get rid of the negative cords that, I sometimes feel, are pulling me down:
In your meditation, imagine that you are holding a sword of light. Know that this is the light of truth. Wield this sword all around your body, cutting all the cords between you and your beloved. Make sure you cut them from all sides, front and back. Continue cutting until you feel that all of the cords have been cut – it’s okay if you feel somewhat saddened. Imagine yourself holding and comforting yourself, with your hands around your body to smooth out the ends of the cords that are still there, letting them fall away and dissolve; do this with a great deal of self-love and tenderness. Now release your beloved and let him go with love and forgiveness, by ending his contract with you.
Love is not meant to hurt, but it does. It hurts more than others are ever going to believe, but I do. I believe that you are hurting within.
Sending you light for a beautiful relationship. Please leaves your comments in the message section.