Releasing Unrequited Love Cords.
When an unrequited lover is afraid to let go of another person, when there is intense attachment, or when a person is scared of being alone or without, etheric cords form between that individual and the other person. While working on cutting cords, it is important to work with them on all levels, because sometimes these cords reach across time and space.
When an individual’s relationship with self is dysfunctional, he gives power to other people by actually allowing cords of energy to tie him to those people. Similarly, when an unrequited lover madly pursues his beloved, he is actually giving the object of love the power to control him. Even if you realise this phenomenon and begin the process of cutting cords that are controlling you and draining your positive energy, the cords keep coming back unless you resolve the underlying reason for this cording with the specific individual. As I have mentioned in my blog Separation and Unrequited Love, when you start making a connection with yourself, you realise that there is much more to you than this relationship that is holding you back from discovering the actual you. Separation may seem truly painful at times and not so painful at other times. It is because of the constant fight between intensities and beliefs of the visible you and the actual you. The deeper you connect with yourself, the clearer you will be able to see what you really want.
As mentioned before, sudden cut-off, just randomly cutting cords causes more harm than good. A conscious awareness and respect for the process is required for any healing process to be successful. Learning how to adapt with the cords and working with them is helpful. Certain methods have been helpful in successfully cutting cords, ensuring smooth exit from a situation or relationship and offering opportunity to heal the underlying issues.
Releasing Cords
Meditation is a very effective way of removing the energy cords. Imagine yourself in a beautiful set-up – a sea shore, a garden full of beautiful flowers, a hilltop, anything that feels truly magnificent to your imagination. Imagine yourself encircled with fine silk ropes which are the cords that bind you. Imagine the feeling of protection that these cords bring to you. Imagine heavens shedding a band of pure light on you, taking away all the difficulties. Now, imagine your beloved or the people you want out of your life. See them in a circle made of similar cords. Notice that your circles are close but they do not cross. Look at these people from your circle and wave good bye!
This is peacefully and gently sending these people in their space, away from you, transmuting the cords instead of cutting them, affirming your own individual space without them. Detach your cords from theirs but let their cords remain whole. Let the fire of love, belonging and compassion extinguish itself. Recognise when a stage of life, a job, a relationship is over and let go. It requires leaving what’s over, without denying its validity or its importance in our past lives. Learn to gracefully and gratefully exit from a chapter of life that is over without prolonging and stretching something that has lived its life. Say goodbye and move on!
As life moves on, this process of sorting, disentangling and moving on obviously becomes more complex and subtle. Make sure you make the music of your life less complicated, avoiding dysfunctional relationships so the people attracted to the dysfunctional part can fall off.
Connecting to Higher-self
The first step, Mediation, will help you align to your higher self. Now add the high-self of the other person, your beloved, or with whom you have an unhealthy attachment. Imagine yourself calling the higher-self of the other person and feeling the presence of two higher selves come face to face. Try connecting with this higher-self of your beloved without your doubts, fears and control issues. Imagine the other person in their light-filled, loving, approachable form. Now see how normal it feels to be in their presence. Slowly turn around and walk away with that image. See yourself fade away from the object of your love, or the person that you have been holding on to.
I will write more about suspending cords in unrequited love in my future blogs. Please share your experiences in the comments section and I will add them to my future blogs.