Falling in Unrequited Love.
Some people fall head over heels in love with another person, immediately after the heartbroken haze of facing rejection from their beloved is over. It might not seem like a benefit, but it makes you do two things. First, this time you hold back your feelings until you have a hunch about how the other person feels. You play safe and do not make a fool of yourself. Read my blog Ways to Handle Unrequited Love, to learn more about this. Second, you realize that you don’t really need anyone to make you happy. All the bad things that you felt didn’t break you and now you’re happy again.
When you are happy within, it reflects in your actions. You automatically become more attractive, because now you know that it is important to know a person well before you give your heart to them. This challenge of winning your heart makes you even more desirable to the opposite gender.
The ‘bad phase’ of your life also gives your friends and family a chance to show you how much they care. While they’re trying everything to get you out of the mess, your relationships with each of them are growing stronger.
When I loved and lost for the first time, it made me feel like I’d never possibly love again, honestly. It just hurt too much. Along the way, when someone proved that the unrequited love was not the only love of my life, I realized – if I felt this strongly about someone who didn’t love me, how much more would I love someone who loved me back? And when I found that person, I discovered a new meaning of love. The fulfillment of your love being reciprocated is much more than the pain you felt in unrequited love. You begin to see how foolish you were to have wasted so much emotion where it wasn’t even required.
On the other hand, if commitment is a problem for you, unrequited love is your best friend. This is especially true if you’ve never disclosed your true feelings to the other person. You can continue to love them without any demands or commitments. The choice is entirely yours to make.
Loving someone doesn’t guarantee that you will be loved back. Don’t let it ruin you. There is a silver lining to this cloud too! However, your most profound sentiments have truly no intention of being overruled by reason. You may not know exactly where your heart lives. Is it some place in your mid-section, or maybe further down? At times your love may feel transcendently sensual, the most blazing animalistic yearning you would ever long for. But, your normal thoughts haven’t been unmoving. They have just been commandeered by another piece of your cerebrum. For example, “May it be in any event conceivable that the one I so desperately love could in the end love me back?” “Might I have the capacity to accomplish something that would by one means or another “motivate” her [or him] to give back my love?” “May he [or she] subtly cherish me, as well, yet (like me) be concealing it out of uncertainty or apprehension?”. These thoughts continue until the spell is broken and you return to reality. In any case, good sense and genuine conclusion remain plainly at war with each other.
It might be a pointless activity but, as life supersedes your better judgment, such imaginings can even be a wondrous source of happiness. For this is where your announcements of affection are successful, the force of your sentiments moves the one you love, makes them see you in an alternate and significantly more ideal light.
However, it’s all envisioned, you’re in some way or another ready to encounter the only satisfaction conceivable in this circumstance. Dreams of reciprocity, however unrealistic, can be powerful. Not that your more sensible self doesn’t have its own power and won’t endeavour to inspire itself forward.
If reason does at last win, it’s simply because, at some point or another, the unforgiving truth of your position dawns on you. Sooner or later you understand that your fantasies have overwhelmed your existence, and it’s a great opportunity to re-adjust to reality, which you eventually do.
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