Unrequited Love, Sex and Spirituality.

In this context ‘spirituality’ is an effort to speed up our evolution of consciousness, which then becomes manifest in the functions of our energy bodies and the formation of higher energy bodies. This makes us aware of the body’s need to connect. Unrequited love pangs tear at your heart when both of you are buffeted about in one drama after another. With time, you become an emotional wreck; confused and incapable of being strong in the presence of your lover. In all of this, we often forget that our bodies have been starved of a loving touch.

The next stage in the spiritual evolution of humanity is forming a society based on cooperation, love and compassion. A society that understands that you are never right or wrong in wanting fulfilling sex in unrequited love, with (or without) a partner who suddenly turned cold and unresponsive in bed. In its negative aspects of lust, sexual excess, degradation and rape, sexuality appears as the antithesis of spirituality, and in this light, it has been seen in religions and most societies.

Yoga

However, Tantric, Taoist and yogic methods try to go further by fast developing the whole chakra system and a higher energy body, which Taoists call the immortal body, and which may correspond to the light body of New Age philosophy. A relationship is a combination of bonds. When you make love, a spiritual bond is formed, which intimately binds the chakras of two individuals. People who are promiscuous are mostly unable to balance their relationships because the chakra cords are being broken constantly. Today, when relationships are formed and broken so frequently, you will need to work hard to become Karma clear after a relationship has ended. This will be a time when you don’t have mental, spiritual, physical or emotional attachment elsewhere. This is when one cycle has ended and you are ready for a new task in your life.

While the Tantric, Taoist and yogic methods have been useful in achieving various temporary states of bliss and psychic happenings, few seem to be really successful in bringing about the so-called brain or spiritual orgasms. At the end of the day, we all need to be loved back.

Tantra Yoga

Tantra yoga originated from the Hindu tradition. It is a method aimed to lead sexual energy upwards. Tantra is a ritualized male-female interaction. As a reward, there may be a brain orgasm and various states of blissful conditions. Traditionally Tantra was seen and used as a method to enable men to achieve enlightenment, while women were only used as tools, even if they were ritually worshipped as Goddesses. This has changed in modern western practices where women are now complete equals of men.

Kundalini Yoga

Kundalini yoga in strict individual practice. An uplifting blend of spiritual and physical practices, dynamic breathing techniques, meditation, and the chanting of mantras is used to build physical vitality and increase consciousness. Both methods entail semen retention.

In terms of unrequited love, the main problem with these methods is that these are one-way streets of energy flow from the base of the spine to the top. This tends to lead to unbalanced development by over-stimulating the head centers at the expense of the heart center. Furthermore drawing up too much sexual energy may in time deplete overall vitality, especially when it is not released in the natural way that it is meant to.

Sexuality, by its very nature, is intended to be shared. It enhances the lives of two individuals involved together in ways that are hard to describe. Moreover, those who are yet to experience it may not completely understand the concept of unrequited sex. When two people have shared a common approach to sexual intimacy and satisfaction, the depths of fulfilment and pleasure experienced by them binds them into cords that can be felt only by those individuals. Ultimately, no matter how comfortable and alive we feel in our individual sexuality, sharing it with another brings a richness which can’t be experienced alone. When one partner falls out of love or becomes disinterested in sex, the other partner feels like a stranger in a familiar territory and experiences unrequited sex.

Get out and find someone who loves you. When you are loved, everything else will fall in place. Relationships, family, work, everything.