Unrequited Love and Tantric Sex.
While doing my research on the subject, I came across this interesting way for couples to increase their bonding and get into relaxation mode. To sustain the expression of love in a partnership, this bonding relaxation exercise is recommended as a daily practice. Let’s first discuss the practise and then I will share my opinion about it regarding unrequited love.
Get together and lie in the spoon position on your left sides. Because of the location of your hearts on the left, it promotes the flow of energy. The partner in need of the most nurturing should lie on the inside, enveloped by their partner. This allows the alignment of the couple’s chakras and the exchange of loving energy. Both partners’ right hands can rest over the inner person’s heart. Lying comfortably together, close your eyes and concentrate on your breathing. Inhaling and exhaling together helps to create a harmony and synchronicity between one another. Incorporating a soothing visualisation enhances the experience- like visualising a pink light flowing through your heart chakra and surrounding your bodies creating an aura of love and tenderness. Or play your favourite music, no lyrics, just soft music to soothe your senses. This is to be done without any sexual interaction.
Sexologists conclude that this process is therapeutic to the minds and bodies of lovers. It creates a resonance effect, an alignment of energy fields that triggers profound healing in both partners.
Tantric Sex
The term Tantra, in the Indian traditions, means a systematic broadly applicable text, theory, system, method, instrument, technique or practice. In Hinduism, the Tantra tradition is most often associated with its goddess tradition related to power. In Tantric sexual union, coming together of a couple is considered a sacred activity whose ultimate goal is self-actualisation. In this tradition, sex is utilised as a means to raise Utsavam, the flow of energy from the base of the spine to the crown chakra- Ut meaning upward and Savam meaning flow, thus re-awakening one’s dormant cosmic consciousness. Another concern of Tantra is to integrate the inner masculine and feminine polarities of lovers, to release negativity and attain fulfilment of masculine and feminine aspects of individuals. This corresponds to Jung’s exploration of our anima and animus. The austerity of Tantric tradition requires strict discipline to follow specific rituals. It is believed that the progress on this path can only be achieved under the strict guidance of a Tantric master who is well equipped to translate the definitive book on lovemaking for centuries- the Kama Sutra. It is also believed that exploring Tantric sex without expert guidance can lead to a disturbance in one’s subtle body which may cause psychological and physical imbalances.
Unrequited Love
I have always emphasised on the importance of an equal relationship, where both the partners find space and motivation to move forward and achieve more in life. While reading this process of attaining self-actualisation through a loving partner, I was reminded all the more of the importance of being loved back.
Whether we like it or not, the Universal Law of Karma constantly brings before each of us the meeting of our past use of free will and consciousness. Thus, what we have done to other souls and they have done to us is reflected in the circumstances surrounding our present relationships and the basic, innate urges, attitudes and emotions we feel toward each other. As discussed in my blog Your Karma in Unrequited Love, Karmic relationships have a magnetism to them to draw you to each other so that one or both of you can learn a lesson. They are similar to soulmate relationships, but the karma is usually negative. There’s an edge to the relationship. It feels off balanced in some way.
What I am trying to say here is that one-way unrequited love is not just an incomplete relationship. It is your past Karma that requires absolution which will happen only after it has played its part in your life and taught you a lesson. So as soon as you realise that you are in an incomplete relationship, learn the lesson and quickly move on to a more fulfilling relationship that could become your way to real self-actualisation and happiness.