Typical Unrequited Lover.
Displaying relentless is an important sign of one way love in the border land of unrequited love obsession. Read about this in detail in my blog Suffering Relationships in Unrequited Love. You will know this is a problem if you keep telling yourself that the object of your affection will surely change their mind if they just get to know you better, or if they would just give you one more chance to show how special a relationship with you could be. You might even go so far as to plan your day so you can run into this person ‘by chance’ or orchestrate ‘coincidental’ meetings. In other words, your previously mentioned blindness to reality has taken over your actions, too.
While talking about signs and symptoms of unrequited love, some unrequited lovers also suffer from physical symptoms of the condition: physical deterioration or self-destruction are the most prominent. Pre-existing depressive propensity mixed with unrequited love can become a recipe for potential tragedy. Given an average UK suicide rate of around 5,000 per annum, as many as three and a half thousand people kill themselves every year whose death is influenced in at least one way by unrequited love. These are sad features of a painful phenomenon. Here are some gloomy conclusions that I have discussed in my blog Unrequited Love Or Life?:
- A person who grows up surrounded by our culture’s endless treatments of unrequited love, is programmed to understand that this is not going to be a happy experience.
- Aspiring lovers are sometimes disappointed and occasionally suffer to the point of depression and suicide.
- Unrequited love brings more bad feelings than good, and it brings them to both the unrequited lover and to the rejecter.
Not only can unrequited love rob you of your joy and make you feel hopeless, it can also result in many physical issues such as insomnia, listlessness, irritability, rashes, malnutrition and nausea. You may also experience frustration, anger, anxiety, depression, feelings of shyness, or fear of rejection. Some folks tend to trivialize the importance of mind and emotions over body, calling it ‘merely psychosomatic’ but really, this is extremely powerful stuff. All these symptoms, and perhaps more like these, have a huge impact on your quality of life and prevent you from moving forward and becoming all you are meant to be – as well as being detrimental to your physical body. In other words, your one-way love has, to some degree, made you physically self-destructive. Time to think seriously!
I know a lot of you are wondering by now – why does one-way love happen?! Broken down to its basic components the core issues you have when you feel one way-love or unrequited love are these:
You are searching for something outside of yourself to complete your sense of self. You do not feel whole and then you mistakenly look outside of yourself for someone to make you whole. The important point to understand here is that since you are already whole, but only think you’re not, this search does not work. I have always said in my blogs that finding love in someone who doesn’t want to reciprocate the feeling is looking beyond the universe, because you are the universe; everything is within you. The best relationship is your relationship with yourself. The best experiences in life manifest with the highest levels of self-love and self-esteem. Because you are the Universe, you are the world, just start right here within your heart. You may read about this in detail in my blog Relationships and Spirituality. While you are in the process of removing cords in unrequited love, remember that the mind must be cleared of all past conditioning, to let true spiritual transformation occur.
Also, there is a high chance that you subconsciously choose to focus on someone whom you subconsciously know will not reciprocate your feelings, thus placing yourself in a situation where you get to be a ‘helpless victim’ and stay in your feeling of not being whole. In other words, you don’t feel your innate wholeness and you subconsciously want to keep on not feeling it. This is based on misunderstandings which we will explore next.
There. That’s it. Now you know what is actually going on. Next, we’re going to look at some typical patterns in unrequited love. Please share your experiences, they make the content of my posts richer and more meaningful, coming directly from you!