The Crushing Truth About Unrequited Love.
Social exclusion or rejection thwarts the need to belong. It causes emotional distress, and wreaks havoc in the person’s life. This is why, when your loved one walks away like there was nothing between the two of you, the chemical reactions that go on inside the unrequited lover’s body are similar to the loss of a loved one. As much as we want to believe that love should be enough to fix any problems in the world, the sad reality is just otherwise. It’s painful to swallow, but love isn’t always going to be enough. Perhaps, you weren’t just meant to be with the person you loved. This is very difficult to accept, but life must go on, my friend.
When the relationship begins to sour, as perfectly rational individuals, it is only sensible to forge your own paths and pursue our own individual passions. Being on your own clears your head of the toxic feelings that may have surfaced in your heart and help you figure out that a relationship would only get in the way of your individual dreams. It will perhaps be a necessary step that the two of you have to take if you are to go on and follow our dreams. Even if you don’t want to let go at this point, look at the possibility of life having other plans for you. Sometimes, we don’t necessarily get a happy-ever-after with the person we love. Maybe the end of your story still has to be written and life is planning a much grander conclusion to your narrative.
I am not saying it is going to be easy. You lose yourself in getting over a toxic relationship that left one or both of you in unrequited love. It is incredibly hard to get out and find yourself again. Considering this, if unrequited love is as prevalent as all the evidence suggests, it is the cause of scarcely conceivable amount of heartache the world over. Researchers claim that almost everyone has some experience of unrequited love on one side or another by their early twenties. Most of us will experience the emotional agony of unrequited love at some point in our lives. Adolescence or early adulthood are most likely to be that phase because at that time people are experimenting with their emotions sex drives. This keeps them preoccupied with forming romantic attachments. This, however, is not a rule. Like anything else, unrequited love can strike at any stage of life.
An integral part of unrequited love is a dreamy sense of possibilities. For the lover, it was the romance that didn’t happen. For the rejecter, generally, it meant a friendship that was ruined in desire to make it more than it was. Interestingly, rejecters and unrequited lovers seem to look back very differently on their experiences of unrequited love. While rejecters carry more negative feelings, surprisingly, the rejected tend to view the experience in a positive light. Rejecters may feel considerable guilt at having turned down a proposal to a romantic attachment and at causing the other person deep emotional pain. They also retain negative feelings of annoyance and anger at the persistence of lovers, much more than the lovers do themselves.
Remember, life reflects to you what you are sending out as energy. If you are happy with your current reality, thank the universe and enjoy. If you are not happy, open your eyes, go back and redefine your dream. Change your beliefs, your thoughts and feelings, and take a different action. As I have written in my post Relationships and Karma, the Universe is a reflection of you. Whatever you are as an individual, so is the universe that you create around you. The neighbours, friends, family, home, city and environment you live in, everything in your life is literally a reflection of you. If you feel that your life is a mess, or that the person you love doesn’t love you back and this is making everything in your life negative, incomplete and unwanted, then you need to do some deep soul searching.
Keep me posted. I believe in your ability to use the law of attraction for love! Sending light to you for a beautiful relationship.