Erotomanic Unrequited Lover.
The term erotomania is often mistakenly confused with obsessive love, obsession with unrequited love, unattainable love or hypersexuality. The core symptom of erotomania, however, is that the person suffering from the disorder refuses to believe that the object of their love is not in love with them. They have an unshakable delusional belief that their beloved is secretly in love with them. In extreme cases, some patients believe that there is a group of individuals in love with him. You may read about this in detail here.
While Erotomania is basically a delusion in which the affected person believes that another person is in love with them, in some cases it can be quite subtle, and many of us are susceptible to it. Experts believe that unrequited love, especially with a stranger, a celebrity or a movie star, may often lead to erotomania. Sometimes a regular crush may become erotomania, when the person is delusional and convinced that the object of their love is in love with them.
With reference to unattainable love, sex, when indulged in, with another person, remains a dissatisfying and loveless encounter, sadly devoid of true love, intimacy and pleasure and often motivated by lust or loneliness. Just to mention here, Ayurveda helps us put sex in perspective through the ancient Indian scriptures. Emphasising our faculty of discrimination concerning quality and quantity, it advises judicious indulgence in sex. More profound implications than just physical pleasure have been portrayed in a sexual union experience. It opens up our heart to love ourselves and all beings with increased passion and instructs us about making sexual union a sacred consciousness expanding experience. It also teaches that sex is a spiritual connection that will satiate all our desires. It is ultimately a yearning for an unconditional loving relationship between ourselves and the divine, which, unfortunately cannot be achieved in unattainable love.
In this perspective, the erotomanic often thinks that their beloved is speaking to them in a code that only they can understand. They feel the beloved is sending them signals of physical interest, which they (for some reason) cannot declare publicly. A man might touch his tie a certain way while being interviewed on TV, for instance. The erotomanic interprets that as a secret signal.This leads to the question – how can you tell if a crush is actually erotomania? If you simply really, really, like someone, it’s probably a crush. It becomes erotomania when you are convinced they like you too, which they definitely don’t!
Next question – how will you know that your belief is wrong? There is going to be someone who will say it to you. A friend, a sibling, anyone who knows how you feel about the person. When they hear, or see you behave in a way that gives out signs of erotomania, they are definitely going to voice out their opinion, or laugh at you for thinking what you do. At this point, it is important for you to take them seriously, instead of being offended and holding on to your belief.
As I have discussed before, today, when relationships are formed and broken so frequently, you will need to work hard to become Karma clear after a relationship has ended, or when you find yourself in unrequited love. Becoming Karma clear is to be done at a time when you don’t have mental, spiritual, physical or emotional attachment elsewhere. So, when you meet and like someone, both of you should be able to say without a doubt that nothing or no one can threaten this relationship. If you are single and haven’t met someone who would occupy a special place in your heart, it is because you are yet to meet a Karma clear person. On the other hand, if you are in unrequited, unreciprocated love, there is a possibility that either one of you is not Karma clear. You may read about this in detail here.
Another dangerous situation is when an erotomanic is in a committed relationship. It occasionally becomes dangerous when they start believing that their social/legal partner is getting into the way of them getting into a serious relationship with the person they love.
I am going to discuss more about this in my next article. So, keep checking back and don’t forget to leave your comments in the message section!