Essential Consciousness in Unrequited Love.
The essence of a spiritual soul is timeless. The physical body is simply the vehicle for the expression of your spirit. It is the physical body that falls in love with the wrong person and gets hurt when the feeling is not reciprocated. However, the conscious mind cannot remember everything that has ever happened throughout time, because the conscious mind is finite. It is the soul that carries these experiences to your future. The Karma centre lies within you. The pleasure of lovemaking, the pain of betrayal; these form a Karmic connection between two individuals and this connection remains with you, until you work towards becoming Karma clear. In my blog Unrequited Love and Karma, I have written how, today, when relationships are formed and broken so frequently, you will need to work hard to become Karma clear after a relationship has ended. This will be a time when you don’t have mental, spiritual, physical or emotional attachment elsewhere. Until the spiritual bond is broken, a new relationship will not work, and you may not even know why.
Essentially, your conscious mind cannot remember or define infinity. The conscious mind is fit for studying, analysing and recording data. Your soul is the carrier of spiritual bonds and it is the soul that will need healing after a spiritual bond has been broken. As I have written in my blog Internal Karma, when you have cut off physical (connection), undergone therapy with the mental (memories), and overcome the emotional (pain), the spiritual bond finally breaks. Spiritually, as long as you have an unprocessed relationship, the connection exists.
In my blog More About Unrequited Love and Karma, I have written about the importance of making peace with yourself when you are or have been in unrequited love, in order to become Karma clear and be ready for a relationship in the future. When you’ve been hurt, there’s a Karma there, but the Karma is always with yourself. It’s not with the other person. The Karma centre lies within you. The only way to make peace with agony of the past is to make peace with yourself. Once you’ve managed to do that, you’re clear, it’s that simple!
Restore yourself mentally; even if it means taking therapy. Get rid of the love you feel for another person mentally. It often requires talking it out and acknowledging it. The therapist is mostly going to make you talk until it gets boring. Read about Hypnotherapy. It helps, as discussed before, essentially, your conscious mind cannot remember or define infinity.
Find the side of you, within you, that’s your guide, your higher self. It will tell you this is not how it wants to see you. It knows this love is never going to be reciprocated and keeps reminding you how emotionally weak and vulnerable it is making you. When your love has gotten hold of your life, when there is a lot of crying, screaming, there’s denial of facts and emotions. When you know you have cried every day for months, this guide within you will know that you are in denial, you don’t want to accept the facts. It’s the same when you’re a drug addict, like I said in my blog Obsession or Addiction?, unrequited love is actually a form of addiction. You will be lost in longing and you mistake it for love. It becomes habitual and lurks behind everything, taints every moment of joy and happiness that could be yours only if you were brave enough to get over it. You must get over that denial, accept the facts and process the emotions.
In order to understand the timeless memory of experiences and reach where it is stored, in the repository of your soul, you need to do some soul searching. This is where all experiences are recorded. You can become aware of this realm and get access to this through meditation. Calming of the five senses is essential to reach the neutral point of the essence of your being, to understand how Karma is following you and where it is leading you. In this space lies the higher vibrational field of your soul memory.
Please share your experiences in the comments section and I will add them in my future posts.