Avoiding Unrequited Love.
Unfortunately, we do not live in a perfect world and for this reason we often tend to fall in love with people who are unavailable to us, either emotionally or for some other reason. In a perfect world, we would only ever fall in love with a person who would reciprocate; after all, who doesn’t want to be loved back by someone they are madly in unrequited love with!
Some people believe there is a way to a way to deal with something like this and make it a bit easier on yourself and others just believe that you must go through your heartaches and see them through to the end. There are a million reasons why a person might not be available to us and no matter what the reason is the outcome is usually the same, walking away with a broken heart. However, there are some ways that you can avoid situations in which you may fall in unrequited love with a person you cannot have.
Why complicate matters? If you know that a person is not available because he or she is either in a relationship with another person or married, it is better to keep your feelings to yourself. There is a good possibility that the person you have your eye on will return your feelings but do you really want to be the person who breaks up a relationship? It is very messy getting involved with someone who is already involved with another person. By keeping your feelings to yourself you will be able to avoid temptation and walk away with more ease.
Chances are if you take some time to consider this question you will take the high road. Not only will this cause another person to feel heartache but you must always remember that the way you obtained your significant other could be the same way that you lose him or her. This means that if you got your lover by stealing him/her from another person then you may as well count on him/her leaving you one day for another person because people usually repeat the same patterns. Is this something that you want to live with?
You can usually tell when you are becoming attracted to someone right away. Removing yourself from the situation is one very effective way to avoid having your feelings hurt. This is not an easy thing to do because human nature tells us to go after what we want regardless of the price we will have to pay. Keep in mind that the deeper you get into a situation the harder it will be to walk away from. If the object of your affection happens to be married or attached to your best friend then the best thing for you to do is to avoid this person like the plague until you have overcome whatever desires you may be feeling. However difficult it may be, this is also what separates us from other animals. We, unlike wild animals can determine the difference between right and wrong and if something feels wrong then we must use our morals and values to remove ourselves from the situation no matter how painful it may be at first. For this reason, you should run at the first sign of trouble, so to speak.
If you have set your sights on a person who has made it clear to you that he/she does not share your feelings then you should walk away from that situation right away and move onto something that is meant for you. People love who they love and you cannot make a person feel something that he/she is not feeling. In other words, if your love is unrequited, you cannot make the other person return your feelings. Either a person wants to be with you or he/she does not. There is usually no middle ground where love is concerned Everyone has someone out there for them and the key is in knowing the difference between shared love and unrequited love. No matter how much you may read on the subject from advice columns and internet sites, you can forget about it. There are no tactics and tricks when it comes to matters of the heart. If a person does not want you, move on to the next person and cut your losses before you find yourself living an emotional nightmare.