Losses in Unrequited Love.
In order to experience the phenomenon of the Soulmate, love the one you are with in full consciousness. This is possible only when the other person is equally in love with you. Only then can you experience your relationship blossoming into a Soulmate Relationship. As we move deeper into our relationship, we discover the density of relationship fuels the awakening of consciousness. Experiencing this metamorphosis is extraordinary. As romantic as it may sound to love someone with your heart and soul, even if they don’t love you back, it is not easy. It is really painful to long for someone who does not feel the same way about you. While there is not much we can do about how the other person feels, there certainly are a few things we can do to save ourselves the unbearable pain. The most important thing to do is to know that you have been hurt and to take care of yourself, no matter what. When you start following the meditation of sexual union, you discover a wealth of love in your relationship that only your soulmate can bring out in you. This is never going to be possible in unrequited or one-way love. We have discussed about different kinds of soulmate connections in detail in my article Unrequited Lover’s Search for Soulmate.
You might meet your beloved accidentally, in an unusual place or situation. Yet, somehow, something magically happens to create an opportunity. Like you already know this stranger from another time or place, a sudden sense of familiarity surrounds you, yet, you can’t seem to place it. The butterflies swirling in your stomach, the anxiety, the feeling of excitement, mixed emotions lurk inside you. Something big is happening out of the blue, and you can barely contain it.
The feeling of déjà vu when he or she asks you something that you were going to speak yourself. Was it a dream where you saw this face as your would-be lover? Or is it the colour that he or she is wearing, same colour that appeared in your dream, or perhaps a familiar scene. It feels like the dream was a divine precognitive foreshadowing. Your dream lover has come to life.
Those zingy, tingly, warm, and fuzzy feelings in your body heighten your senses and make you feel more alive. You start thinking that you just met The One, Your Soulmate. Is this a sign that this person is about to become the centre of your life? You exchange phone numbers and email, and when you talk, you share conversations that both of you would otherwise never share with anyone. There is so much that both of you have in common, though the person is not normally your type. There is an inexplicably powerful connection. Why is that?
Deep within, you feel a subtle hint of resistance. Your inner voice tries to ask you “what’s going on?”, but you immediately squash it. In my blog Unrequited Love and Karma, I have written that in order to be sure of a karma clear person, you first need to look into yourself. Have faith that your intuition is strong enough to giving you deliverance. It talks to you through your gut feelings, heart feelings, and head feelings. This is the seventh sense that bounces you on the head and says “get the hell away from this person”, but unfortunately, it is equally true that most people in love are oblivious to this voice of their inner self. Your logical mind keeps questioning, but the lonely part of you can’t stop wanting to be rescued. You want to get rid of the hopeless feeling that you’ll never have true love because of your past or current unrequited love experiences. You want to experience passion and love that you’ve always dreamt of but never really known. You feel confused fighting both sides of yourself as if you’ve been split into two people. It becomes impossible to stop thinking about that person.
And then comes rejection- One fine day you decide to disclose your feelings to the other person and the world comes tumbling down.
When asked to remember a past unrequited love experience, unrequited lovers made more specific references than rejecters to the loss of a (possible) relationship. You can read about this in detail in my blog Reminiscing Unrequited Love. On the other hand, out of the few rejecters who made references to the loss of a relationship, spoke about a ruined friendship. Some even felt that they were attempting a delicate balancing act in hope of discouraging the romantic affection of their lover, as well as trying to retain the friendly affection. They confess that they were well aware of the fact that they could not hold on to it indefinitely, and the persistence at romantic efforts by the lover was rather upsetting because of the friendship that was being ruined because of the change in one person’s feelings.
We can conclude by saying that looking for a soulmate in unrequited love is useless, because love is complete only when reciprocated. Also, unrequited love may lead to a loss of friendship which leaves both the parties hurt and lonely.
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