“Unrequited love is a ridiculous state, and it makes those in it behave ridiculously.”
Cassandra Clare
Unrequited love or one-sided love is love that is not openly reciprocated or understood as such by the beloved. The person you love may not be aware of your deep and strong romantic affection, or may consciously reject it. The Merriam Webster Online Dictionary defines unrequited as “not reciprocated or returned in kind”
This type of love has been the subject of many books, films, and television programs. The unrequited love is filled with a set of feelings that remind him about the person he has fallen in love with, makes him feel weak and unlikable, makes him feel depressed, and many more things at the same time. Unrequited love can be called a “phase of human torture” where a person suffers so much from the inside and can’t be healed easily.
Unrequited love is like a disease where you just keep getting sick if you keep giving up. There are no physical wounds in this type of disease and no medicines to deal with them (Even Though there are capsules to deal with depression but nothing to heal it with 100% efficiency). The fact that most people can’t recover from it even after a long time makes it perilous.
“Because what’s worse than knowing you want something, besides knowing you can never have it?”
― James Patterson, The Angel Experiment
Types of Unrequited love
Unrequited love may take a few different forms, including:
1. Having feelings for someone who does not return those feelings.
2. Missing someone who is not with you.
3.Mutual attraction between people who are both in other relationships.
4.A desire for an ex after a relationship has ended.
Famous Songs About Unrequited Love
Unrequited love has been a subject of almost all the songwriters all around the world to write their lyrics in which the pain and agony of the person towards their lover are shown. Here’s a compilation of some of the most famous songs written about unrequited love. So if you feel broken or alone, these songs will help you to know that you are not the only one who has been crushed by a “ Crush”.
1. “Gorgeous” By Taylor Swift
You make me so happy, it turns back to sad, yeah / There’s nothing I hate more than what I can’t have / You are so gorgeous it makes me so mad.
Sometimes the problem isn’t that your crush is unavailable — sometimes you’re the one who’s taken. “Gorgeous” is all about a magnetic yet elusive flirt that Taylor Swift wants and can’t have. Her inability to be with her crush only fuels her desire more, despite the fact she already has a boyfriend.
2. “Call Me Maybe” by Carly Rae Jepsen
You took your time with the call, I took no time with the fall, You gave me nothing at all, but still, you’re in my way, I beg, and borrow and steal, at first sight and it’s real, I didn’t know I would feel it, but it’s in my way.
Yes, this earworm by Carly Rae Jepsen is absolutely about a crush that doesn’t know that she is alive. The song plays on that immediate feeling of falling for someone at first sight, but the accompanying video also makes it very clear that the crush is one-sided.
3. “Teardrops on My Guitar” by Taylor Swift
I’ll bet she’s beautiful, that girl he talks about, And she’s got everything that I have to live without, ‘Cause he’s the reason for the teardrops on my guitar, the only one who’s got enough of me to break my heart.
Yes, another song by Taylor Swift. Swift’s early work is full of these songs, and this one is all about the despair that comes from falling for someone who just doesn’t return your feelings. This one is also a bit of a breakup song, but few things feel worse than falling for someone who ends up rejecting you. While Swift’s subject matter would become more mature over the years, this song still stands out among her earlier works.
4.“Without Me” by Halsey
And then I got you off your knees, Put you right back on your feet, Just so you can take advantage of me, Tell me how’s it feel sittin’ up there,
Feeling so high but too far away to hold me.
In the lyrics, one can see the extent of the pain Halsey felt while contemplating the fact that she helped and cared for this boyfriend, personally and professionally, and how he is now turning his back on her, with no recognition for the things she did for him.
The lyrics move on describing a scenario in which this man, who she helped to elevate himself, is now very successful and doesn’t care to remember, or appreciate.
5. I Will Always Love You by Dolly Parton
Bitter-sweet memories
That’s all I’m taking with me
Good-bye, please don’t cry
‘Cause we both know that I’m not
What you need
“I Will Always Love You,” was originally recorded by Dolly Parton, although many think it was Whitney Houston’s song, which couldn’t be more incorrect.
Dolly Parton has written songs about heartbreak, pain, love, and loss, many of which relate to fans’ personal lives. But in her own personal life, she has had a long marriage to her husband Carl Dean.
6. EMPTY EYES BY NAVINAV
The Song ‘Empty eyes’ created by NaviNav and released on Hyper Harmony records are a complete demonstration of an Unrequited lover’s emotions and feelings. The song seems a recollection of the various thoughts and emotions that go through the mind of a lover.
Now let’s talk about the Song “Empty Eyes”. The main lyrics of the song is-
“So scared to love again, Trying to play it like a Game
Lonely because there’s fear of pain,
I wanna love like the heart stops and mind thinks again”
Isn’t it scary to suffer through a whole lot of pain once again in your life when you know how critical it was for the first? Regardless of the fact that we fall in love with people every day, we don’t want it to go forward because we know what will happen if it does.
Love comes naturally from our hearts, we can’t stop it and that’s the reason why this whole unrequited love thing starts. If our minds could control our hearts we wouldn’t feel for people we know who wouldn’t love us back or even care for us. But still, this isn’t reality, our hearts aren’t controlled by our brains, if it were controlled by our brains, there wouldn’t be murders and killings and most importantly heartbreaks.
And this is how the lines “So scared to love again” describe the emotions of a lover who doesn’t want to love again because he is scared to face the consequences of that unrequited love once again in his life.
The lover wants to play all of this like a game, the meaning of this is that the lover wants to handle all of this lightly as if it were nothing.
The moment we hold a relationship dearly, we step from a world of joy to a world of partial entertainment. This world is very different from the world we live in. This world doesn’t have a guarantee for the soulmate’s lifetime attachment, perfect trust, complete love, and guaranteed affection. This is the reason why the lover wants to stay lonely because there is fear of pain. Fear of immense inner pain for quite a long time.
The song explains the emotions of an unrequited lover in every way possible. We can also say that this is an unrequited love song The way to do it is also brilliant- a soulful and emotional song. Besides books, music is the best friend of a lonely person. Every lover can relate to this because unrequited love is a real-life experience, there might be millions of people around the globe suffering through this.