The Quantum of Unrequited Love.
The fulfillment of your love being reciprocated is much more than the pain you felt in unrequited love. You begin to see how foolish you were to have wasted so much emotion where it wasn’t even required. Your world always reflects what you are sending out in the form of energy. When you are happy within, it reflects in your actions. You automatically become more attractive, because now you know that it is important to know a person well before you give your heart to them. This challenge of winning your heart makes you even more desirable to the opposite gender. I have written about this in my blog Falling in Unrequited Love. If you are happy with what is happening in your reality, thank the universe and enjoy! If you are not happy, go back and redefine your dream, work on your beliefs and your thoughts and feelings, and take a different action.
From a quantum creating perspective, the more we allow ourselves to fall under the spell of unrequited love, the more we vibrate with unfulfilled longing, and the more the universe will mirror that and send us more of the same. As discussed in my blog More About Relationships and Karma, the Universe is a reflection of you. Whatever you are as an individual, so is the universe that you create around you. The neighbours, friends, family, home, city and environment you live in, everything in your life is literally a reflection of you. If you feel that your life is a mess, or that the person you love doesn’t love you back and this is making everything in your life negative, incomplete and unwanted, then you need to do some deep soul searching.
Following a breakup, you may feel like your life is over. Worse than rejection, the wounds of a failed relationship can leave you scared and ambivalent about dating again. The idea of all the pain and suffering of a breakup all over again if the next relationship doesn’t work, is truly terrifying. However, to make your future relationships more relaxed and successful, face your fears about intimacy and relationships.
It may be hard to get out of your bed in the morning, motivate yourself to go to school or find pleasure in the activities you used to enjoy. While it may not feel like it, it is possible to rebuild your life after a breakup, by making yourself and your needs a priority. Do things that engage your logical, planning, strategic brain. Reach out to your best friend, a family member or someone you trust. When a person in pain isolates oneself, the pain becomes greater. Let others be there to support, love and comfort you. Leaning on other people helps a person to come to terms with one’s pain and makes one feel loved. Breakups can be heart-wrenchingly painful, and it can be difficult to adjust to being single. You are grieving the loss of your ex and feel a void in your life from his absence. This period can be extremely lonely. However, you can handle loneliness after a breakup by reaching out to others and taking care of yourself. Talk about how you feel and know that you are not alone as you rebuild your life. It feels good to know that there is someone who understands us and is there for us when we are lonely, low, or sad.
Dating is supposed to be about having fun and enjoying yourself. Don’t ruin the fun by stressing about the future. When someone asks you out on a date, consider it a casual night out rather than immediately thinking about the future or the things it can lead to. During a date, stay focused on the moment and the conversation. Avoid letting your mind wander to over-analyzing your date or wondering if this is a failed relationship in the making. Your date will also appreciate you more if you are relaxed and engaged throughout the night.
Never fool yourself into believing that they are still to realise the feeling. You are preparing for a big disappointment if you do. Just think for a moment how wonderful it’s going to feel when you no longer have to be obsessed about that person. How you’ll be able to choose whether to think about them or not. And when you do, you are able to feel calm and detached, putting it down to part of life’s rich tapestry of experience.