Girls in Unrequited Love.
You are not the only one if you love a guy who doesn’t love you back. Oblivious to your day by day commitments and obligations, the life you were engaged in before falling miserably in unrequited love, your passionate emotions hold you hypnotized. Your fixation becomes a diversion past anything you’ve ever experienced. Burdened with the basic vitality that unrequited love denies you of, on occasion you’ll wish that your head could take much better charge of your love-struck heart. But knowing that your feelings are common won’t help you overcome them, and if this guy isn’t serious about you, that’s exactly what you need to do. It won’t be easy, but there are certain things that you could do to make you feel healthier and happier in the long run.
If the guy knows that you love him, it is obvious that he’s had the opportunity to enter into a romantic relationship with you and refused. Unrequited love has existed in the society since time immemorial and has been a subject of uncountable stories, movies, songs and books. Some lovers find it easier to maintain platonic friendship with their loved ones for the fear of losing them if the actual feeling is revealed, as the object of unrequited love is often a close friend or acquaintance. This forms a comfortable ground for them to remain around their beloved, interact with them and even be a special, trusted friend. Moreover, there is always a chance of rejection and social embarrassment as the existing association often does not permit a romantic relationship.
You aren’t doing yourself any favors by pushing your feelings. Unrequited love relationships are associated with significant turmoil and little benefit to you. The sooner you accept his feelings, the sooner you’ll be able to get over your own.
Unrequited love has been known to be giving, altruistic and selfless. It is considered as the purest form of love that arises from the knowledge that your love may never be reciprocated. In more conventional societies, unrequited love has been depicted as noble and stoically willing to suffer. Where the only possible cure for being in such love is to get indisputable evidence that the beloved is never going to reciprocate. In such societies, it is associated with a feeling of euphoria and is considered as the only ‘successful’ form of love.In westernized societies, however, it holds less relevance and is looked upon as a passing phase. Love, when not reciprocated or rejected, counts for being the cause of depression, anxiety and low self-esteem. In such societies, with less rigid codes of sexual fidelity and relatively high social mobility, unrequited love is looked upon as not as romantic as devastating and is rather forgotten than pursued.
As great as the guy you love is, you are probably idealizing him. An inability to get over former boyfriends has a lot to do with reliving the past and comparing it to a lonelier present, all while ignoring the negative qualities of your relationship. But even if you are not head-over-heels for an ex, you need to break this fantasy by privately identifying his faults and reminding yourself that this guy is not superhuman.
If you don’t give space to yourself and him, getting over this guy will be much more difficult. Taking time apart will show him that you are independent and won’t always be there to hang on his every word. More importantly, it will help you to stop seeing him in a romantic way. If you want to transition into a platonic friendship, you will need to shed your attraction first. And if you don’t see him as a friend, it may be time to cut him out of your life for good.
Focus positive energy on yourself. You should go on dates to remind yourself that there are other attractive guys, but don’t stop there. Stay active and productive as you work through your emotions by devoting yourself to your studies, getting outside and staying in touch with friends. And above all, cultivate your unique interests and passions. Not only will this help you find the right guy, but it will also make you happier with or without a boyfriend in your life.