Finding Strength in Unrequited Love.
When alone, you want to experience the joy of togetherness so much that the obsession can really get in your way of finding love. There can be extreme mood swings in this stage of life. One minute you feel insecure because you’ve not had sex for four months, and the next minute you’re thinking about the object of love, who betrayed you, or never loved you. Now, you are going to laugh at me for this, but you can truly program your mind to think a certain way. It just needs willpower. You can break this wheel of misfortune and avoid mood swings and feeling sad for yourself, by pretending like you’re not desperate at all. Learn to fake confidence. And once you’ve mastered this art, the opposite gender is going to be all over you.
A good relationship is where both partners feel the support of being pushed to achieve their best, yet being loved for what they are. Let your partner feel important in the relationship. Associate with someone who allows you to grow. Praise and encouragement can work better than power and controlling. Also, learn to cooperate and be patient. The best experiences in life manifest with the highest levels of self-love and self-esteem. Because you are the Universe, you are the world, just start right here within your heart. Finding love in someone who doesn’t want to reciprocate the feeling is looking beyond the universe, because everything is within you. The best relationship is your relationship with yourself.
Be careful in your choices. Any charismatic person who makes you smile and sweeps you off your feet is not to be dated or married. There are times when a vivacious and cheerful person might happen to fall in love with a sociopath. Someone who shows all signs of a promising future. Someone smart, beautiful, warm and talented. Even if you have dated a lot and were widely admired, you may become a victim of wrong choice, which eventually leads to broken relationships and unrequited love.
When you have done all you can in unrequited love and your beloved still doesn’t love you back, your family doesn’t understand your love, and your friends think you are wasting your time, you genuinely wonder ‘why don’t they understand?’ There are certain aspects of you screaming at you, to analyse! When everyone is against you, every person who genuinely cares about you, you perhaps need to understand that certain parts of your belief are unreal and are not letting think straight!
For various reasons, when a long-term partner or spouse loses interest in sex, relegating it to the ‘once in a while, when I’m in the mood’ part of their lives, the predicament faced by the other person in the relationship is not the same as someone who is single. The opportunities for finding another partner are not only slim, there is a lot at stake, which this article is too short to cover.
Unrequited love pangs tear at your heart when both of you are buffeted about in one drama after another. With time, you become an emotional wreck; confused and incapable of being strong in the presence of your lover. You feel sucked off, of better sense, logic and emotions. I would like to mention here, just for a cause, that minority social groups who feel excluded show many of the same patterns as unrequited lovers- antisocial behaviour, high rates of aggression, decreased willingness to obey rules or cooperate, more self-destructive acts. poorer intellectual performance, etc. If we could possibly promote a more inclusive society, some of these tragic patterns could be reduced when people feel themselves to be accepted as valued members.
Connecting with an idea, with possibilities, connecting with people, and above all, connecting to the beauty that lies within you. The greatest strength that is expressed through an individual is ‘Connection’. What you spontaneously and effortlessly connect with is what really matters in life. When you start making a connection with yourself, you realise that there is much more to you than this relationship that is holding you back from discovering the actual you. The deeper you connect with yourself, the clearer you will be able to see what you really want. Separation may seem truly painful at times and not so painful at other times. It is because of the constant fight between intensities and beliefs of the visible you and the actual you.