Density of Relationships in Unrequited Love.
Life gives us one golden opportunity to become love itself, and the greatest catalyst for this to happen is a relationship, not unrequited, one-way love.
In order to experience the phenomenon of the Soulmate, love the one you are with in full consciousness. This is possible only when the other person is equally in love with you. Only then can you experience your relationship blossoming into a Soulmate Relationship. As we move deeper into our relationship, we discover the density of relationship fuels the awakening of consciousness. Experiencing this metamorphosis is extraordinary. When you start following the meditation of sexual union, you discover a wealth of love in your relationship that only your soulmate can bring out in you. As I have written in my blog More About Relationships and Karma, a relationship is a combination of bonds. When you make love, a spiritual bond is formed, which intimately binds the chakras of two individuals. People who are promiscuous are mostly unable to balance their relationships because the chakra cords are being broken constantly. Today, when relationships are formed and broken so frequently, you will need to work hard to become Karma clear after a relationship has ended. This will be a time when you don’t have mental, spiritual, physical or emotional attachment elsewhere. This is when one cycle has ended and you are ready for a new task in your life.
In a regular relationship, sexual union can be a crude and boring affair, however, when experienced with a soulmate, it becomes sublime sacred ecstasy that awakens rapture in body heart and soul. All us have a choice. Complacence or bliss? Ultimately, the true purpose of all soulmate relationships is to move beyond the ordinary waking state of consciousness into Cosmic consciousness because that is how they are meant to be.
Self-regulation of an unrequited lover helps solve the primary purpose of enabling them to restrain themselves so as to gain social acceptance. Moving on in life requires both effort and sacrifice, but these are normally compensated by the benefits of belonging to your social group like you did before this entire episode. That is the essential social contract.
Certainly there is ample evidence that people who do not gather themselves after rejection end up being excluded by others. Their friends eventually dump them, their employers fire them, and in serious cases society expels them because low self-control may be lead to some kind of criminality. Conversely, it has also been found that acceptance of friends and family helps unrequited lovers in handling the situation. As I have written in my blog Benefits of Unrequited Love, the ‘bad phase’ of your life also gives your friends and family a chance to show you how much they care. While they’re trying everything to get you out of the mess, your relationships with each of them are growing stronger. If neglected by friends and family, a rejected individual loses the willingness to make the efforts and sacrifices to change their behaviour according to the prescriptions of others.
Unrequited love pangs tear at your heart when both of you are buffeted about in one drama after another. With time, you become an emotional wreck; confused and incapable of being strong in the presence of your lover. You feel sucked off, of better sense, logic and emotions.
Minority social groups who feel excluded show many of the same patterns as unrequited lovers- antisocial behaviour, high rates of aggression, decreased willingness to obey rules or cooperate, more self-destructive acts. poorer intellectual performance, etc. If we could possibly promote a more inclusive society, some of these tragic patterns could be reduced when people feel themselves to be accepted as valued members.
After the dismal picture of unrequited lovers that has been painted in the article, let me close on a positive not. If a rejected lover finds an apparent opportunity to make a new friend, then he seems extra willing to exert himself to respond positively. Under promising circumstances, previously rejected lovers are more likely than others to choose to trust someone, to praise and pamper a new partner, and also to view others as potentially friendly and accepting.
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