Relationships and Karma.
The Universe is a reflection of you. Whatever you are as an individual, so is the universe that you create around you. The neighbours, friends, family, home, city and environment you live in, everything in your life is literally a reflection of you. If you feel that your life is a mess, or that the person you love doesn’t love you back and this is making everything in your life negative, incomplete and unwanted, then you need to do some deep soul searching. This aspect of Metaphysics is Karma. You create that part of your own Universe which immediately becomes sensitized by you.
If you examine the people you are attracted to, date and make commitments to, or marry, you will see that you are different from all of them. Most of the problems in unrequited love, leading to a broken heart or a broken relationship, are because both individuals believe that they are different from their partner. They have nothing in common. Notice here that both individuals are saying the same thing. Metaphysically speaking, the love of your life is a reflection of your own persona. Somewhere deep inside the Karma bank in your soul, is an entity. This being relates to the woman or the man in your life that you love. It is a major reflection of where you are in this part of your life with relationships.
It bothers me to hear people say “my husband beats me” or “my wife fights with me”, or ‘he’ this or ‘she’ that. If you are unhappy in a relationship, walk out! Create another part of yourself that is happier! More loving, more caring, more supportive. If the relationship you have is like a Metaphysical rut and downright filled with fights or loneliness, remember that it is a reflection of yourself. No matter how much you love the other person, what you sense in your immediate surroundings is the truth of life. Now imagine a moment in the past when you were extremely happy. You are most likely to think about a person, place or activity that is not the cause of unhappiness in your life. Pursue that and happiness will follow.
Most of us have Karma with ourselves. We wrongly believe that it is the other person causing pain to us. All of us have been fantasizers at some point in life and literally believed that relationships should be a certain way. As soon as a problem crops up, we blame, reject and eject people out of our lives. Look back at your past, and all the people you’ve been with. Try making a list of people you’ve loved or made love to. There are many victims and victimizers that you did not even think about, until now. If your life lacks emotional stability or your beloved doesn’t love you, it’s because the Karma in relationships lies with you. You can’t blame anyone but yourself. If you attract a certain person in your life and it turns out to be a disaster, it is Karma’s way of evolution for you.
Many people, in their past lives, associated with things such as rape, rejection and cheating. These things have occurred through centuries of human history. The resultant karmic influence invokes today’s circumstances, for Karmic absolution. Consider people’s sufferings in the past; those enslaved by governments, dictators and rulers. Nations subjugated, starving and slaughtered. Karmically speaking, if all you’ve got to worry about in this life is your unrequited love, you are truly blessed. If you ignore these blessings, the result is a lack of stability in relationships, causing dissatisfaction and heartbreak.
There are people who would do anything to have a grain of rice in Ethiopia, Cambodia and Afghanistan. You are worried because you don’t have the type of relationship you deserve! In my blog “Return to Sender”, I have written about how a one-way lover’s persistence in spite of rejection, irrational and inappropriate behaviour are considered justified in case of unrequited love, which our cultural ideologies would not encourage otherwise. We mostly never worry about how uncomfortable this is for the rejecter. Would you not feel guilty after rejecting someone?
An unrequited lover attracts a relationship that remains unfulfilled and becomes sad about it. One moment you respect the other person and then you hate them. This is a part of your own self that you are hating. The next time you are with the person you love, recognize that individual as a reflection of either a current or past part of you. If your current love is unreturned, remember a person in your current or past life whose love you did not return. Recognize the love of your beloved exactly as a karmic reflection of your own past life self, that is now being returned to you. It’s almost like tennis. What goes around, comes around.
Read this article again. Then remember that today’s relationships are the ballpark of Karma. What you have sent out in this Universe as love, sex, and commitment will most certainly come back to you.
I am going to write more about Karma and its effect on relationships in my next blog. Please share your experiences in the comments section and I will add them in my future posts.